#DearErica, Botswana

Kefilwe

Dear Erica, 

I hope there’s still room for more letters. First of all, you do not know how proud of you I am. I’m like a proud mama bear. Watching you blossom into who you are now has been a joy. You’ve taken me through a rollercoaster of emotions I didn’t think I could feel for a stranger. Watching the show was not part of the plan, I’d like to say I chose you from the onset but that would be a lie. I think I noticed you day 2/3, your bubbly personality and natural beauty caught my eye. There was a lightness about you and your down to earth demeanour endeared me to you. Every day you kept showing pieces of yourself like a multi layered onion (i was often left teary eyed). As you let your guard down and threw all caution to the wind, living in the moment and being your authentic self, liberated me in a way. There’s a famous quote by Marianne Williamson that reads : “… As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same… ” That is what you have done for me. You have liberated me from always trying to be perfect and a people pleaser because certain people have a perception of who I am and have always lived up to that, hiding parts of myself that might not be pleasing to them to fit the box they and I have placed myself in. You living your truth has challenged and inspired me to step out of the box and live mine. Like the Elites, my tribe will find me and be drawn to my true self, warts and all. So I thank you. I thank you for being brave enough to stand before Africa naked (bearing your soul), unapologetically so and wearing your heart on your sleeve to announce to the world: This is me! You are worthy of every bit of love you are currently smothered in. I’m happy love found you. I love how ambitious and driven you are and have no doubt you will go on to do great things. I wish you the best life has to offer and can’t wait for you to climb stages to receive a pat on the back for your craft amongst your peers. Most importantly, make that quap! 
Regards, 
Kefilwe